Comments on: Sometimes, There Are Too Many Valentines & Not Enough Love http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472 A storied journey across the country. Wed, 25 Aug 2010 06:13:36 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Deep Muck Big Rake » Love http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1134 Deep Muck Big Rake » Love Mon, 01 Mar 2010 18:19:01 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1134 [...] it takes someone else’s words to express how you feel. I don’t want to be loved just because I am a sister, a mother, an old friend, or a known [...] [...] it takes someone else’s words to express how you feel. I don’t want to be loved just because I am a sister, a mother, an old friend, or a known [...]

]]> By: Becky http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1133 Becky Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:59:57 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1133 Oh my god. Do you know me? Your words speak to me like you do. Thank you. .-= Becky´s last blog ..<a href="http://deepmuckbigrake.com/2010/02/28/books-home/" rel="nofollow">Books: Home</a> =-. Oh my god. Do you know me? Your words speak to me like you do. Thank you.
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]]> By: Monica http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1028 Monica Sun, 21 Feb 2010 10:46:29 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1028 Oh good god, where are the old posts? Shit. (Can I say that here in this fancy fancy blog?) Please don't tell me they're no longer accessible? Because I was looking for the first post of yours I read, and it was all about being too sensitive and feeling too much (or being told so) - which was when I wrote to you and we realized we were "somewhat twins"? I miss you. .-= Monica´s last blog ..<a href="http://singinginmysoul.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/02/imagine-me.html" rel="nofollow">Imagine Me</a> =-. Oh good god, where are the old posts? Shit. (Can I say that here in this fancy fancy blog?) Please don’t tell me they’re no longer accessible? Because I was looking for the first post of yours I read, and it was all about being too sensitive and feeling too much (or being told so) – which was when I wrote to you and we realized we were “somewhat twins”? I miss you.
Monica´s last blog ..Imagine Me My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Dan @ JYIS http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1023 Dan @ JYIS Sun, 21 Feb 2010 05:27:02 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1023 Awesome post, Jane. I know the term "mommy blogger" makes a lot of women who are mothers bristle, being piled into a usually derogatory box and placed on a shelf. And yeah, there are hu,ge numbers of blogs and bloggers that suck. Moms included. But their message, their battles, their strength and fortitude and sacrifice in the setting of diminishing love or care is both heartbreaking and inspiring. Makes me wish I could grab some of the women like you describe here and just squeeze away all their hurt and pain in a single embrace. But I can't. So my heart stays broken a little. Awesome post, Jane.

I know the term “mommy blogger” makes a lot of women who are mothers bristle, being piled into a usually derogatory box and placed on a shelf. And yeah, there are hu,ge numbers of blogs and bloggers that suck. Moms included. But their message, their battles, their strength and fortitude and sacrifice in the setting of diminishing love or care is both heartbreaking and inspiring. Makes me wish I could grab some of the women like you describe here and just squeeze away all their hurt and pain in a single embrace.

But I can’t.

So my heart stays broken a little.

]]> By: jeanne http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1014 jeanne Sat, 20 Feb 2010 04:46:49 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1014 That reached the heartlight. Thanks. Again. That reached the heartlight. Thanks. Again.

]]> By: Anne http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1011 Anne Fri, 19 Feb 2010 22:28:22 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1011 What is "too sensitive" and who gets to make that determination? I have heard that said and may have said it myself at times without really thinking about what it means. I have known people that can profess to "love fully", but never allow the same to be given and received. Is that really loving? I have done a lot of "self" work over the last 4 years and understand that allowing myself to be vulnerable is an important part of giving and sharing in loving relationships. Has it always worked out? No, but I have remained in that space of possibility and believe that it has enhanced most of the relationships in my life. I think I am worthy and will accept nothing else, not negative words or actions. I choose to surround myself with those that are a part of filling my reservoir and I theirs. Why choose anything else? What is “too sensitive” and who gets to make that determination? I have heard that said and may have said it myself at times without really thinking about what it means. I have known people that can profess to “love fully”, but never allow the same to be given and received. Is that really loving? I have done a lot of “self” work over the last 4 years and understand that allowing myself to be vulnerable is an important part of giving and sharing in loving relationships. Has it always worked out? No, but I have remained in that space of possibility and believe that it has enhanced most of the relationships in my life. I think I am worthy and will accept nothing else, not negative words or actions. I choose to surround myself with those that are a part of filling my reservoir and I theirs. Why choose anything else?

]]> By: Rosanna Enns Krahn http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1008 Rosanna Enns Krahn Fri, 19 Feb 2010 13:52:35 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1008 Guess I have not left a comment for some time now. That does not mean that I have not been here reading your words, Jane. Because I have, sometimes I read a particular writing more than once. You certainly have a gift for putting down your thoughts. I particularly love this article. I can identify with so many of the issues you so eloquently describe. I too have had a "Deborah" in my life, and felt very much the same way about her. I had a wonderful childhood with loving, marvelous parents, but even that does not always prepare one for different situations that life sends your way. I have also been called "far too sensitive" numerous times in my life by friends and co-workers, never too sure whether they meant that in a positive or negative way. But life goes on and one learns to deal with these issues, in one way or another. Sometimes wish I had the knowledge (and also the time) to be able to write the way you do. It would probably be therapeutic for me. Love you Jane, and your writings. Guess I have not left a comment for some time now. That does not mean that I have not been here reading your words, Jane. Because I have, sometimes I read a particular writing more than once. You certainly have a gift for putting down your thoughts. I particularly love this article. I can identify with so many of the issues you so eloquently describe. I too have had a “Deborah” in my life, and felt very much the same way about her. I had a wonderful childhood with loving, marvelous parents, but even that does not always prepare one for different situations that life sends your way. I have also been called “far too sensitive” numerous times in my life by friends and co-workers, never too sure whether they meant that in a positive or negative way.
But life goes on and one learns to deal with these issues, in one way or another. Sometimes wish I had the knowledge (and also the time) to be able to write the way you do. It would probably be therapeutic for me. Love you Jane, and your writings.

]]> By: free fringes » Blog Archive » fringe friday fellowship http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1007 free fringes » Blog Archive » fringe friday fellowship Fri, 19 Feb 2010 06:11:08 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1007 [...] Devin wrote an extremely moving piece on Valentine’s Day and its compulsory traditions, how we’ve come to interpret this one day of [...] [...] Devin wrote an extremely moving piece on Valentine’s Day and its compulsory traditions, how we’ve come to interpret this one day of [...]

]]> By: thefloydster http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1004 thefloydster Thu, 18 Feb 2010 19:02:36 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1004 A thought-provoking, intelligent, masterfully crafted bit of writing. Thank you for sharing it with us. A thought-provoking, intelligent, masterfully crafted bit of writing. Thank you for sharing it with us.

]]> By: Roddee http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472&cpage=1#comment-1002 Roddee Thu, 18 Feb 2010 15:02:27 +0000 http://www.findingmyamerica.com/?p=472#comment-1002 Love.. It is desired, sought after, grasped, neglected, abused,cherished,ignored,inspired, Philosophized, psychoanalyzed...For good reason it only is. ..all of our paths are steps we take within our own souls reach. Maybe the only true meaning to this life. We can learn from others. We can share to others. But IMO our love is singular to each. When I say I love you Jane Devin. It is because I think you are worthy. Thank you GM and Verizon for having the insight to sponsor the thoughts of truly a remarkable person. Love.. It is desired, sought after, grasped, neglected, abused,cherished,ignored,inspired, Philosophized, psychoanalyzed…For good reason it only is.
..all of our paths are steps we take within our own souls reach. Maybe the only true meaning to this life. We can learn from others. We can share to others. But IMO our love is singular to each. When I say I love you Jane Devin. It is because I think you are worthy.
Thank you GM and Verizon for having the insight to sponsor the thoughts of truly a remarkable person.

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